Sex is the ultimate bond in a relationship between two people, a sharing of intimacy and trust. To so easily have sex with others is to not take the personal relationship seriously enough. It has been proven that in the long run, sex outside of a relationship will ultimately destroy the relationship, even if both parties agree at first.
That's not always true. There are many people whose romantic leanings or sexual preferences allow them no issues with having a non-monogamous or open relationships. To assume that everyone lives and loves the same just because of the widely accepted traditional values would be folly; people are different.
Yeah. I think if the couple agrees on one opinion about that then it's fine.
@donuts come back when you're in your mid 30s and have been there and done that a few times and see if you still feel sex is the ultimate bond in a relationship. The ultimate bond in a relationship is not physical, its all about communication; you got that you got the ultimate bond. Don't let these sexy romantic yaoi stories fool you.
as a pansexual dominant with sadistic tendencies my Husband cant give me what i need so i have a girlfriend and a submissive male and between them i get what i need in my life, sex is nothing the best relationships are about love trust communication etc sex is such a small part of a good relationship
Preach to these young fools!!!!
Atsushi seems to agree with you, Donuts, though I hold the opinion that if both (or more) parties in the relationship agree, no one else has any right to say their relationship is "wrong." Once it became clear in the story that Tsukasa did in fact love Atsushi and wasn't just sleeping with him because he was there, he quit his job as an AV actor and went to work in a video rental store.
Sex is in no way the ultimate bond in a relationship. Commutation, love and trust are. These things is how you gain deep intimacy. And intimacy isn't all about sex either. A relationship built on only physicality will not last long.
Also as mentioned by akuwa & a few others, relationships are fluid. Many are also sexually fluid as a result relationships are defined by those involved.
I agree that communication, love, and trust are strong bonds, but in most "normal" committed partnerships (and I mean between 2 people), there is a predominant need to "trust" that their partner is communicating with them, as well as being faithful both emotionally and physically.
I agree with you. As for the people who commented on you thinking they know better, i have never seen more intolerant and arrogant bunch of hypocrites.
As an asexual person, I can tell you, sex is no where near what I consider an "ultimate" anything in my relationship with my husband. In fact, never do I ever even feel a desire for sex. And yet, my relationship with my husband is still quite strong, finding our intimacy in other areas. Relationships are different for everyone, and as long as they find a way to make it work, even if that includes sleeping with other people, it doesn't make their relationship any less valid or "intimate".
I'm not a huge fan of "oh, I'm an AV actor, it's just my job, but I love so-and-so," types of stories.