Shabby Thesealion

I mean, from personal experience I don't think how someone treats you during sex alone is very indicative of how they'd be to you when dating more steadily/in a relationship.. For me it's more about taking some time and playing it safe to figure stuff out (unless there's deal-breakers from the get go). But it IS good to test your sexual chemistry if you want your relationship to include having sex. Just, do leave room for improvement if it doesn't work out too great the first time and you like them otherwise lol

its a good think i said "one of a good way" then wouldn't want people thinking im saying "put out immediately " lol i dont want to use this comment section for my personal ted talk but after reading your reply now im worried someone might take my comment the wrong way haha. Using sex as ONE OFF the indicators isnt just about doing the deed itself, i mean sure. It speaks volume how they treat you before, while doing it, and after. Were they rough? Did they care for your needs, ask how you feeling or they just care about them finishing, and how they treat you after yall done. It is their attitude leading to the sex that needs to be Noted as well. Like is the person pushing for it? Always making you feel like you need to have sex to keep them interested in you?
For example if you are inexperience with sex , yet your partner is hounding you to have sex with them, is pretty much a red flag in itself. Not to mention Depending in what country/culture you are in , you might have a different relationship or views on sex. For example in my country where is conservative, most people get married is just so they can have sex , so you can find a lot of desperate men trying to talk their girlfriends into marriage, whether either party is ready for the responsibility or not , doesnt matter they just wanna fuck. So be safe out there guys, if you ever feel the preasure for having to do it, you are never wrong to put the breaks on it.

Oh I did understand that this is what you meant, though thank you for clarifying cause I'm sure it'll be useful to someone to have this more detailed context!
But while what you mention are all indicators to look out for regarding whether it was a healthy and safe experience and help to mainly identify if something was seriously wrong, it doesn't mean they'll be this way as a relationship forms or progresses. As in, some ppl (regardless of gender) will follow all the right steps and rules for sexual encounters and/or dates that come without commitments, but they're not interested in anything deeper. Which could go two ways (in my experience), they're either kind and upfront about it and use consent for how things would go forward or not, OR they'll react poorly/lie/ghost etc even if they'd previously hit all the green flags.
Also, others who might want start a relationship will simply show their true colours after the first 2 months or so, which could very well be the total opposite of how they'd previously behaved. This all doesn't negate your view, it just adds a few more things yo be aware of! The important thing is to take time instead of the usual (for many of us) head-over-heels, blinders-on approach which very often leads to significant denial when we're finally disillusioned if things turn bad.

Well yeah that goes without saying, like we can both make an long ass essay about relationships and sex or take all the right steps as you mention but it doesnt mean it will turn out exactly as plan or expected, lets not forget humans are a mess of an animal and no one can truly know or understand anybody's real intentions. Despite our opinions i dont expect Anyone to take our advise at face value and instead do what they feel is right for them , if anything our discussion can be taken
as a cautionary tale. Metaphorically speaking, not all foot can fit the same shoe size but we can always use the shoe to find the right size for us (this methapor sucks but you get what i mean)

The romances start when he grows up, so probably when the otome storyline start. And I read up to 20 still fluff family/friends focus.

Oh is there a novel? Can i ask for a lil spoiler, juz wanna know Who's the male lead :)

It nots translated, the translator wrote the explanation on the top of the first chapter. (๑•ㅂ•)و✧ I think it the black haired kid.

Lol yeah i didnt see the notice uhuu to excited to see cuties that i scroll to fast i guess. Another commen saying that theres 4 volumes of this and the mc is still a kid...so i ls safe to assume is gon be slow burn.