Yuzuki Yukari

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Love is yaoi

My parents also didn’t really have a good relationship at first but somehow they later worked things out .... still don’t really know what went down since I was around 5 and honestly I still don’t think their relationship is “perfect”. But is there really a “perfect” relationship. I feel like love is an emotion that constantly needs works/effort. If you don’t try to keep it alive it will die out. Which is why a lot of people say to marry someone who even if you don’t “love” anymore you can still spend time with them. To me loving someone is a lot of work, but at the same time it just happens. It’s hard to explain since I don’t really have experience romantically but I have people I care for. My close friends and family. I would do anything for them without expecting anything in return. I guess what I’m trying to say is you don’t only feel love for your partner, and that love is something you work for.

for my part i don't have any experience in love but judging it on my family i can say that what they have is not love but more like leaving together because they don't have any choice.Take for example my sister her marriage is a disaster,she and her husband have an abusive relationship and the same goes for my parent.But i know that love exist because my neighbors are a pair of old couple.They don't say i love u to each other but show it with action.Both of them have an harmonious relationship and they have been married for 40 years old.Hope this have help u,love exist but we need to find the perfect person.

love is an illusion..(i am not referring to the manga).. for a moment it makes you feel like your in the seventh heaven and then it shoves you back to the deepest darkest pit called reality..

i don't want love for myself. (or maybe yet,) when my friends are getting married and hope for boyfriend, here i am wishing to get ASH figurine instead LOL
my sisters are married tho, and it gives me some traumatic kind of vibe to see how having husband in a marriage (kinda failure marriage), it won't make you happy either (if you choose a wrong guy,) so i decided that i don't need a man to make myself happy because I CAN make myself happy. (but i need men to do yaoi stuff, it kinda makes me happy HAHAHA)
so, i have commitment issue, i'd rather to just living together but not in a marriage, so when you don't love each other anymore we can just part ways easily.

Like the others have pointed out, love is different for everyone; it's complicated. I also haven't experienced it, but judging from my environment, love is... all about compromising with each other.

In my case, my parents loved spending time with each other. They would talk about things and just... feel pretty happy with each other's company. Yet there's also this other side of the spectrum where they would complain and fight over something they don't agree on. Nonetheless, no matter how much they disagree on one another, there are still moments where they would compromise to make the other happy while it still feels tolerable for them. That is my view of a pretty healthy and decent relationship.

My grandparents on the other hand... it feels like they are always a cat and mouse. My grandmother is selfish and believes that only her thoughts matter most and whenever my grandfather tries to deny or correct her, she would blow up a fuse; that's usually the scenario unless there's others who would tell her to listen. So it feels like my grandfather only works for the sake of their children (still working rn at the age... of around 80? I believe?). This is my view of a very VERY toxic and abusive relationship...where there's no love left; only obligation. As a result of this tho... my aunt views relationships like it's a very bad idea (she secluded herself and at the age of around 50, still no kids nor partner... a sad caged life imo :<)

I'm sorry for going off-topic, but yea, love is something where two people would adjust themselves to make the other person happy; this should never be one-sided or else it will become toxic. When u love someone both of u would try to find that balance. (for science, u will always want ur ph level to be 0; for cooking, u will always want the family dinner to satisfy everyone's taste; for business, u will have to spend for supplies to sell ur products and profit; well- hopefully u get the idea.) There would be sacrifices and some rough patches, but overall, love should feel like the journey and hardships with this particular person seem worth the effort.

When you mentioned the older couple it made my heart warm up in delight. I honestly adore seeing older couples still enjoying one another's company.

For me, i think love is when you dont care anything about you, you just want the person you love to have all happiness. And with that, there are sacrifices and efforts to show how much you love you the person.. Love will help you to be more matured and appreciate everything you have... This is only my opinion, i dont really have experience in love but hope this helps~

Love IS real, I have seen it.

Of course, there are different types of love. The one you are referring to is the romantic one.

For that, I think love is about looking at someone and accepting them for who they are. It means being with someone with whom you can be the BEST version of yourself, someone that is there for you in the downs AND the lows, someone that makes you so happy being with that you want to be with them forever. And, importantly, love is when that someone looks at you and feels and sees the same thing.

I think there are some reasons why this type of love is so elusive:
1. People think they are going to be swept of their feet, or have prince charming come at them on a white horse. That is not love. Love is a process, love takes time and work. It also means compromise at times.

2. People don't understand that it's impossible to have a love where everything is rainbows and sunshine, just like life is not always rainbows and sunshine. They see a difficulty as a sign that it's time to move on instead of as a challenge that, if overcame together, makes love stronger.

3. Romantic love is a step-up from other types of love: self-love and family/friendship love. What I mean by this is that in order to find romantic love where someone accepts you, you have to first love and accept yourself. Also, in order to have romantic interactions that are long-term and successful, you first have to have any type of interactions that are long-term and successful, because through this process you are learning to accept people into your heart (aka you can't give a person your everything when you have problems giving people small parts of you).

4. Love is a mutual thing. For me, one-sided love is not love at all... because it steps on self-love. You can have a crush, or you can obsess over someone, but those things don't make you happy. Mutual love, where the person meets you halfway, makes you happy.

Anyways, those are some of my thoughts... let me know what you guys think

You made some very good points , I esp. like the one about learning to accept yourself. To love you must first really find out who you really are. No one person or thing can fill a person if you don;t know who you are. I too have seen love too couples in their golden yrs, who have lasted. Real love is possible, but it takes two people who are willing to put the time in to make it work.