problematic tropes in bl/gl?

im sure y'all have noticed this too, but i've noticed a reoccurring theme, mostly in manga depicting queer relationships (but also in plain ol' shoujo manga too), is the fetishization of pedophilia, rape culture, incest, etc.. to anyone who answers this, do you happen to enjoy these tropes or do you tend to avoid it? do you read through, thinking "wow this is not okay at all but as long as they're happy", or do you think "this is seriously fucked up"? i'm genuinely curious as to what people think about storylines involving these tropes :) please be mindful of other's opinions and lmk what you think!